Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself to suffer for nothing.
Nothing that people say is because of you. it is because of themselves. All people live in their own mind, in their own world; they are in completely different world from the one we live in. When we take things personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world in their world.
even when the situation seems so personal, even if other insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. because it’s their mentality, and eventually mentality forms reality.
it actually works like this,
you take something personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, you are trapped. what causes you to be trapped is what we call Personal importance .
Personal Importance is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make assumptions that everything is about “me”. we think that we are responsible for everything. Me, me, me always me!
You need to understand that everyone is producing a movie. their own movie of life.in that movie, they will put things they like, they will say things they love to say, they are the main character of the movie, so eventually they will always try to be the best and put every secondary character on lower priority. likewise you are the main character of your story, so you need to decide how you would like your movie to be.
The best practice that i follow is that i always keep in mind that,
it is not important to me what you think about me. i don’t take it personally when someone say “You are best”, and i don’t take it personally when you say “You are worst!”. you may even tell me, “what you are saying is hurting me.” But in reality it is not what i am saying is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that i touch by what i have said. You are hurting yourself. there is no way i can take it personally. Not because i don’t believe you or don’t trust you, but because i know that you see the world with different eyes, with your eyes. you create an entire picture of movie in your mind, and in that picture, you are the director, you are the producer, you are the main actor or actress. Everyone else is secondary character. It is your movie.
with this practice as you learn not to take things personally,
if you live without fear, without judgments, if you love, there is no place for any other emotions. if you don’t feel any of these emotions, it is logical that you will feel good. When you feel good, everything around you is good. When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy. You are loving everything that is around you, because you are loving yourself. Because you like the way you are. because you are content with you. because you are happy with your life. and when you feel happy, you are happy with the movie that you are producing. 💖
so loves,
Be Happy, Be Kind and Remember , Don’t take anything Personally. 😇❤️💝
PS – Inspired by Don Miguel Ruiz